The Nurse came in to do the other 'test', which was essentially a pap test, but as she pulled out the stick, she said to her assistant..."We've got something here"
So, they did a cervical exam. Finally. Not sure why they didn't do one from the get go.
"Okay," she said "looks like you're staying here for a while, you're 4 cm dilated. How far along are you?"
it was terrifying. Everything i had ever feared about hospitals was happening to me. Faceless medical staff walking in and out, talking over me, not to me. B-rad tried getting Sunava on"W the phone, and she said that she was on her way... but as they were on the phone a nurse came in and said to me: "Okay, i'm just going to have roll over to your side for me there..." and before i knew it STAB! i was injected with something.
I lost it and completely broke down and sobbed.
"what was that! what are you giving my wife?"
What they had given me was Steroids to help Chewie's lungs develop, it was needed, but the way it was done was awful. it seemed like our vision of a drug free birth was going straight to hell in a very uncomfortable handbasket.
There was a moment when i thought B-rad was going to go to fisticuffs with one of the nurses there. Finally he said; "look, we're not trying to be difficult, but it's all happening so fast and we just need a few minutes"
So the Maternity Nurse, Debbie said: "okay, i'll give you a few minutes to talk it over while i go do some paper work, but then i'm coming back and i'm moving you to Delivery and i'm putting in an IV"
B-rad said; "We had planned to have a Natural Delivery, so this is all very scary"
and Debbie said:
"Well, let me just say this: Yes, Birth is natural - but so is death. That's all i'll say" and walked out.
WHAT THE FLYING FUCK WOULD YOU SAY THAT FOR!!?!?!???? i still can't believe she said that to us
There it was, the Medical Bullying i was afraid of.
We eventually moved to the delivery room and agreed to whatever drugs they told us i needed, it was like i'd given up - whatever, just do whatever you need.
and then... Sunava showed up with her big bag of tricks and immediately set Debbie on edge
"Uhm, who are you?"
That's our Doula.
"just what exactly is all that stuff?"
"These are just essential oils and some cds and things"
And as Debbie was setting up my IV Sunava asked what the IV was for and she got:
"I've already discussed this with the parents, but it's saline water and antibiotics"
I kept thinking this was NOT going to go well if my nurse and my doula couldn't get along.